Healing After Loss: The Moment I Realized I Still Remained

Twelve years ago, I sat across from a pastor, surrounded by the heaviness of loss. My world had been shaken, and grief had settled deep within my soul. In that quiet space, something shifted — something that would shape me in ways I couldn’t yet see.

I realized that even after experiencing a devastating loss… I remained.

That truth changed everything.

The Moment That Redefined Me

I had a choice.

I could spend my life questioning God, holding onto the pain, replaying the moments that shattered me. I could move forward carrying anger, disappointment, and disconnection.

Or I could choose differently.

I could choose healing.
I could choose forgiveness.
I could choose to embrace what still remained.

And slowly, intentionally — I did.

The Ongoing Choice

Choosing healing did not erase the pain. Life continued to bring its share of heartbreak and setbacks. But it also brought love. Growth. New experiences. A deeper awareness of who I was becoming.

Over time, I evolved into a woman who lives with greater clarity, grace, and strength — not because loss disappeared, but because I learned I could remain through it.

And today, I write this not simply to reflect, but to gently invite you to consider your own moment.

What has shaped you?

What is calling you to rise, to grow, to evolve — even after all you have endured?

Whatever it is, don’t dismiss it as a fleeting thought.

It may be the beginning of realignment.
The beginning of returning to yourself.

You are worthy of a whole and purposeful life.

You are worthy of healing.

And you still remain.